So lately I’ve been trying to better myself in certain areas. Being a better father, husband, worship leader, IT guy. I sometimes feel like I’m being pulled in 100 directions. Something recently came to me thought. If I can focus on one thing at a time in each area I need to grow in it’s not so hard. Example. I want to be a better husband. I could read hundreds of books on the subject and try to do all the things that they say at once. First off a lot of them can contradict each other but also I probably wouldn’t get very far. Instead I’m focusing on one thing; communicating better. I find that a lot of the stress I’ve encountered in my marriage has been because I’ve told Lee what I think she wants to hear instead of what I really think. Over the past few weeks I’ve changed that and things seem to be a lot less stressful (by the way I hope you don’t mind me sharing bits of our story here 🙂 )
Now the thing with growing is that it can sometimes hurt. As I try to become a better worship leader part of that requires me to listen to myself sing and objectively see where I need improvement. I have in the past been lucky enough to have a great mentor in this (Thanks Ted!) that was able to give me constructive feedback with out crushing my spirits. But it’s still hard to sit and analyze my mistakes in order to correct them. If you’re not careful you could give yourself a complex.
You also need to realize there will be set-backs. It’s rare that as you set out to become better at something you’ll just keep getting better all the time. You’ll slip up and sometimes you’ll just stay the same. The important thing to remember is that you need to keep trying. If you aren’t trying to get better then what’s the point in doing something? Even in leisure activities. I used to play a lot of online video games (shocker I know). The whole point is to create a character that keeps getting better and better. It wouldn’t be much fun if you had the same abilities after the playing the came for a few weeks as you had when you first started. I think that’s true of life as well. What fun would it be if we were all still the same people we were in high school (I shudder to think)?